1. “Try it on:” 
    • Meet new ideas with a beginner’s mind.
    • It’s okay for anyone to make mistakes.
  1. Speak from your own experience.
    • Describe your own feelings and perspectives.
    • Use “I” statements; do not speak for a whole group.
  1. Refrain from blaming or shaming self and others.
  1. Understand the difference between intent and impact.
    • Acknowledge that harm may have been caused despite good intentions. 
    • Denying the unintended impact of something can cause additional harm.
    • When harm has been identified, strive for a collaborative resolution or to make repairs.
  1. It’s okay to disagree.
    • Pause and explore disagreements as possible areas for insight and growth.
  1. Practice “both/and.”  
    • Acknowledge and honor multiple realities.
    • When speaking, consider substituting “and” for “but.”
  1. Move up/Move back.
    • If you tend to speak often, consider “moving back” and if you tend to speak less, consider “moving up.”
    • Look for ways to invite more voices in the discussion.
    • Be lean in expression to make room for others.
    • Be aware of how your energy is contributing to the group.
  1. Be present.
    • Listen mindfully. Try to avoid planning what you’re going to say while others are speaking.
    • Take time to connect with others in the context of the group (e.g. starting with a moment of grounding, greeting in Zoom chat, or personal check-ins).
    • Observe the right to pass if you don’t wish to speak.
  1. Honor confidentiality where applicable.
  2. Offer care to yourself and others.

To download a pdf of our Agreements for Engaging and Interacting, click here.

Updated March 8, 2022